Jul 24 2009
Another Change for Mom?
Today I called the nursing home where my mom is and talked to the head lady there. She wanted me to sign some papers so a psychiatrist can talk to Mom and I wanted to see how that went. I sent the papers in over a month ago and the doctor still hasn’t come to see her. His assistant came, but the assistant can’t talk to her until this doctor talks to her first. It should be soon, the head lady assured me.
Then she hit me with something else. She said my mom has a terrible time after her doctor appointments and it takes her several days to quiet down again. I told her that it was probably because we were there to meet with her during that time and she said that that had nothing to do with it. Now she wants me to change doctors and have the one that comes to that nursing home to check Mom out. I am not for that idea because, if I remember right, that doctor didn’t like older people. I had him to deliver my two kids and I don’t think he liked delivering babies either. He decided to induce my labor so he could get me to deliver my baby so he could go to a ball game. I know my Mom talked about him in a negative way when he was seeing her dad and I don’t feel right about changing to him.
I am happy with the doctor she has and before she got really bad with Alzheimers, she liked this doctor also. In fact, she kept pushing my dad to go see him because she felt he was a good doctor. So am I wrong in not wanting to change doctors? Maybe she would be better if we didn’t go and meet her there. It seems a shame to be shut in a place and never get to go anywhere. Mom isn’t the only one from this nursing home who goes to this doctor. They take several other older people there. It is maybe abut 8 miles from the nursing home and she always liked to go places. I know she worries about the cost, but I told her it was all taken care of and she wouldn’t have to pay anything. Her next doctor appointment is in September, the day after her anniversary. She no longer mentions Daddy, but she wants me to talk to her parents and see if they won’t come and visit and take her home.
It’s a sad time for everyone involved. They are making advances toward a cure for Alzheimers and I hope and pray that they do find something that helps. I never want anyone to ge through what we are going through.
